What Is The Happiest Day Of My Life?
If I were to ask you:
What is the happiest day of your life?
How would you answer?
Would you easily get to a single day or moment?
Or would you have to juggle between memories and then weigh up which was the happiest?
There are so many factors to what would make a day the happiest day of your life.
Most of us think of the external factors that happen to make it our happiest day.
We might think of things around our relationships, our work, our family, our friends, a promotion, a financial achievement, contributing or giving our time and resources.
You might consider:
- The day you met a loved one for the first time.
- When you realised you were in love?
- A beautiful moment or holiday.
- When you got engaged.
- The day you got married.
- When you found your forever home.
- Moving in day.
Or…
- The day you found out your first child was on the way.
- When your child was born.
- Your first Christmas together as a family.
- Your child getting married.
- Your child having their first child.
Or, you might pick something like:
- The day you graduated or got your final exam results.
- The day you got your first job.
- Your first paycheque.
- Your first promotion.
- You changed jobs.
- When you went out on your own.
- You landed a huge client.
- Had a dream holiday.
Is it true that these things have to happen for you to have a happy day? Or can you be happy, no matter what? And…
What if having only one happiest day was limiting you?
How can a happiest day hold me back?
Here’s the thing…
What if you could have many happiest days?
Words are so important. Whether we say it to ourselves in our internal dialogue or out loud, we listen to them. Our subconscious hears them.
Choose your words carefully, even with such a thing as describing your happiest day.
If you say: My wedding day was the happiest day of my life.
It presupposes that since you got married, your days haven’t been as happy. And maybe they never will.
Perhaps, you have already had the highlight of your life.
Are you limiting yourself and closing yourself to any possibility of topping that day.
How different would your brain process the same statement with just two extra little words…
Saying instead: My wedding day was the happiest day of my life SO FAR!
Or: My wedding day was one of the happiest days of my life, so far.
This now sets your brain to process other or new options and possibilities for even more happiness.
In fact, it will go searching and looking for even more happiness and ways to fulfil this statement. It will be open and receptive in finding ways to be happy.
That way, you are not limiting yourself to one day. You are not limiting yourself to never having another happy day to match it.
You are not belittling the happiness of that day, you are welcoming the possibility (in fact the supposition), that there are other happy days ahead of you. You just haven’t got to them yet.
Is there another level?
What if we take it a step further?
What if EVERYDAY is your happiest day?
How would your life be?
Would that make your life even better?
Would you wake up with energy to start the next happiest day of your life?
As I get older, I realise more and more that it doesn’t have to a big event, it could simply be taking a walk on a beach, or sharing a moment with friends or family.
Can you look back on your life and the happy days and happy moments with different eyes?
Knowing you don’t have to pick one day to be the happiest, instead choosing to make EVERY DAY the happiest.
I’ll leave you with that thought… instead of picking the happiest day of your life, consider EVERY DAY is the beginning of the happiest day of your life so far.
Until next time
LIVE, LOVE & THRIVE